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The following article by Sam Orbaum
originally appeared in the
Jerusalem Post on
September 21, 1999
and has been much republished and
redistributed since. And for good reason. Amazingly, this story is
true. Anyone who has had the good fortune of getting to know the
Machlises and the kinds of things that they do on a daily basis,
realizes that the only major mistruth in Orbaum's article is in its
severe understatement. But, I would excuse him that. No serious
nonfiction writer could possibly put the entire Machlis story to paper
without risking the loss of all credibility with his audience. Their
love, devotion, selflessness and 24/7 charity doings sound far too
fairy tale-esque and unbelievable for people to accept without having
experiencing it for themselves ~ an experience, might I add, you will
certainly enjoy.
The Jerusalem
Post
“For
the Love of Judaism”
by
Sam Orbaum
Mythological tales are told of saintly Jews abounding in humility,
knowledge and wisdom, wondrous people just as close to God as to
humanity.
I found one. And he's no myth.
I can be forgiven for having harbored cynical doubts after hearing
about Rabbi Mordechai Machlis, and before meeting him. Here in
Rabbiland, there are many with many fine attributes, a few with none,
and perhaps fewer who are so lofty that -- in Jerusalem's religion
industry -- they are failures.
Rabbi Machlis -- "Please," he would say, "Call me Mordechai" -- is a
failure because he does not play the game. He is not loud enough about
how quiet he is, he shuns the politics of power, prestige and
influence, he doesn't understand the fashionability of false modesty,
of cult of personality, of mystic stature-building. Doesn't hobnob or
hustle, publicize or promote.
All he does, for heaven's sake, is do good. (And he'd really prefer I
didn't write about it, but I declined to ask his permission.)
As Shabbat approaches, his household is busy preparing. It's a large
family, so there's a lot to do, but they like having guests, so
there's always a bit of extra work and added expense.
Not three or four guests.
A hundred. Maybe 150.
That's how it is every week in the Machlis household in Ma'alot Dafna,
that's how it's always been -- for the past 18 years.
Why? Well, his wife is a great cook, and Shabbat is a beautiful
experience, and they love people, so why not?
On second thought, the greater mitzva-macher is his wife, Henny. A
semitrailer-load of splendid food goes through her small kitchen --
for Friday dinner AND Shabbat lunch. And they don't just serve a
spoonful of this, a shtikl that: from the 18 chickens she cooks, to
the three different kugels and array of salads, to the choice of four
desserts (not to mention the gefilte fish, chicken soup, cholent, and
even vegetarian alternatives), you can fress, take seconds, and go
home heartily content.
Never mind that the family is (so I'm told) deeply in debt, that they
pay for everything themselves, that they wouldn't think of scrounging
for donations or institutional funding. Never mind that they are not
salting away a nest-egg for their 12 children. They have this crazy
notion that bounty should be shared, never mind if you can afford it.
Mordechai and Henny feed the thronging masses not just food, but
morsels of learning, servings of hospitality, and great vatfuls of
love of Judaism. They're not agenda-driven missionaries ramming
religion down your throat -- because they're not collecting souls,
they're nourishing them.
You eat, you listen to what Mordechai -- and Henny -- have to say
about Torah wisdom and morality, and perhaps you'll stand up and
contribute your thoughts, as many do. You sing or just listen; utter
the prayers, or not; eat and leave, or stay and talk: even after the
family has gone to bed, the door swings open and more people come in
-- as late as midnight -- to nosh or shmooze. (Why they bother to have
a door I don't know.)
It's one of the most enthralling Jewish experiences I've ever had in
this city, where Judaism can be warped into such ugliness.
BEYOND THE food, and the food for thought, this is a remarkable
encounter with people.
It can get unruly, vehement, or emotional to the point of tears. When
the ingathering gets a chance to be heard, they don't always heed the
rabbi's plea for sensitive, respectful political correctness. Hot,
roiling debate might take hold.
But just as likely, someone might describe how they discovered their
Jewish roots, beg forgiveness for anti-Semitism, or recall with
reverence how the Machlis family changed their lives, and everyone
will be quietly sobbing.
What startled me most was that close to half the assembled were
gentiles seeking an intense Jewish experience. Mordechai and Henny are
Americans in their mid-40s, and the proceedings are in English, but
the Judaism is neither watered down for the most ignorant guest, nor
pedantic and enigmatic for the most knowledgeable.
Indeed, there were a number of haredim and modern Orthodox present,
mixed in with an amazing assortment of newly-religious, newly-Jewish
or soon-to-be, elderly Sephardim, families and singles, neighbors,
self-styled disciples of the rabbi, a few oddballs and kooks, the
poor, the lonely, people under one influence or another. And of
course, the Machlis children, a dozen beautiful youngsters aged one to
19.
Having grown up in such a pulsating environment, they are like the
flower children of a '60s commune. "We don't need MTV," one of them
chirped, "We have Shabbes."
There was a young man from Slovakia who had arrived on aliya five days
earlier. A leggy, underdressed beauty from California, here with her
husband on their honeymoon. A group of young South African Christians,
one of whom had to go out for air because he was overcome by emotional
tumult. A Christian Australian family, a day after arriving on their
first visit. A middle-aged Florida tourist who spoke earnestly of
Jesus, challenging Mordechai to respond wisely. And four young men who
looked very much like soccer louts, German Christians profoundly
self-conscious to be there, but -- encouraged by Mordechai's effusive
warmth and sincere respect -- courageous enough to stand and state
their feelings.
One of the Germans, Manfred, almost apologetic for his presence,
needed us to understand that his name means "man of peace." Another of
them asked me, wide-eyed and whispering, if this is how all Jewish
homes are. I could barely answer for the lump in my throat.
People speak, awed, of the Machlis sense of charity and kindness.
Stories are told...
When Mordechai walks home from the Kotel, he greets Arab shopkeepers
with a friendly "Shabbat Shalom."
A homeless man sleeps in their van, and they never know who they might
find on their couch in the morning.
The poor and hungry know they can walk in anytime and fill their
pockets from the Machlis pantry.
A sorry old drunk was invited to the eldest Machlis daughter's
wedding, and was honored by getting to dance with the bride's father.
Does it ever get to be a bit much? Doesn't this family sometimes crave
a quiet, intimate Shabbat without intruders, just the 14 of them?
"Sure," said one of the girls, a 16-year-old identical twin. "We go
away once every few months, just the family."
I was relieved to hear that.
"But," she added quickly, "We worry that some people won't have a
Shabbat meal, so we leave food outside."
And that's the way it was... and
is (except that the Rav and Rebbetzin now have 14 kids) ~ stop by the
Machlis residence at any time and you're bound to see them feeding the
hungry of body, mind or soul. On literally a daily basis Rav Mordechai
and Henny dispense free food, monetary assistance, advice,
encouragement, scholastic knowledge and help of all sorts to the many
and varied groups of people who make their way to the Machlis's humble
abode. To call their home an inspiration is quite the understatement,
it is in fact Jerusalem's greatest soup kitchen, hospitality center,
yeshiva, counseling hub and social center. All wrapped into one.
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